Tuesday, June 30, 2009

How to treat people?

"Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none." - William Shakespeare

Shakespeare tells us how to treat all in one sentence. All that you need to know how to treat others is right here.

If you do really love yourself, then you ought to be loving everyone else. That goes by default. If you find yourself hating somebody, then you are not loving yourself completely. When we feel something other than love for fellow beings, it just shows that we are not comfortable with some parts of our own selves. When we are not happy with some parts of our own personality, similar traits in others seem to come across as huge drawbacks in others. This follows from the fact that as humans we are all cut from the same fabric. Underlying core is the same. Same divinity exists in all of us.

Trust a few. Despite loving everyone, we still can not reach out to everyone  adequately. So, we need a representative sample of the population to trust and open ourselves completely. Even with trust, it is better start off trusting everyone by default and put the onus of living up to it on others. Try it and you will see that starting off on a right footing of trust makes amazing difference when you have to deal with people. By trusting people, you convey a very subtle but strong expectation that the person better live up to your expectation which in this case a really good one. People normally live up to and if one or two do not live up to, no great harm is done.

If you can not do above two, you can help yourself immensely by doing the third one at the least. That is doing wrong to none. I think this is the hardest. As long as we continue to be normal human beings, we are bound to do wrongs to others from time to time. Our previous 'karma' forces it us on us sometimes and in some cases previous 'karma' of the receipt acts as through us. Only way to minimize this is to feel sorry and repent for the wrongs we have done and do good to others. It is not necessary (not possible) to go back and do the right thing to the same person we have done wrong to. We can find anyone else and help that person and our wrongs are righted. Transitive law of mathematics hold good very well here. As they say ' the best way to pay back the good will is pass it on to somebody else.'


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Saturday, June 06, 2009

Holding onself accountable

"We should every night call ourselves to an account; What infirmity have I mastered today? What passions opposed? What temptation resisted? What virtue acquired? Our vices will abort of themselves if they be brought every day to the shrift." - Seneca

If you lie in bed thinking before falling asleep, think on these lines rather than thinking about useless things. The answers you get by asking these questions will help you become a better person. They say you should pray before going to sleep. In addition to praying, if you can also do a quick retrospective, it will end the day with a sense of satisfaction.


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