We Need to Be Bored Sometimes

“A generation that cannot endure boredom will be a generation of little men.” — Bertrand Russell

We seem to have developed a fear of doing nothing.

Stand in a queue and the phone comes out. Sit alone in a restaurant and we start scrolling. Wait five minutes for an appointment and we check messages, news or social media.

Every empty moment must be filled.

But perhaps those empty moments were doing something useful.

Before smartphones, the mind regularly had periods with nothing to entertain it. We stared out of windows. We walked without headphones. We waited. We daydreamed.

And sometimes, out of that apparent boredom, an idea appeared.

The brain needs periods when it is not constantly receiving new information. When external stimulation slows down, the mind gets an opportunity to wander, reflect and make unexpected connections. That is particularly valuable for creative thinking.

Boredom can also teach us something increasingly rare: being comfortable with our own company.

This does not mean throwing away our phones or rejecting technology. It simply means allowing some parts of the day to remain unstimulated.

Take a short walk without headphones. Sit with your morning coffee without checking the phone. Wait in a queue without reaching for entertainment. Look out of the window during a journey.

At first, it may feel uncomfortable.

Good.

Perhaps we have forgotten how to be bored.

Give the mind some empty space and see what it does with it.

You may discover that doing nothing occasionally is not actually doing nothing.

The Epidemic of Comparison

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” — Theodore Roosevelt

Never has it been easier to compare our lives with other people’s lives.

Open social media and within minutes you see someone buying a beautiful house, vacationing in Europe, getting promoted, running a marathon or celebrating a perfect marriage.

Then you look at your own ordinary Tuesday.

Suddenly, a perfectly decent life can feel inadequate.

The problem is that we are making an unfair comparison. We know our entire life—the disappointments, arguments, bills, failures and boring days. But we usually see only the parts of other people’s lives they choose to show us.

We compare our complete reality with their highlights.

There will always be someone richer, younger, better looking, more successful or more talented. If happiness requires being ahead of everyone else, happiness becomes impossible.

Comparison also makes us overlook what we already have. A comfortable home becomes unimpressive because someone has a bigger one. A good career feels inadequate because someone earns more. Even a happy holiday can seem ordinary after seeing somebody else’s photographs from an exotic destination.

There is nothing wrong with admiring successful people. They can inspire us to improve.

The trouble begins when inspiration becomes comparison and comparison becomes dissatisfaction.

Measure your progress against your own life instead.

Are you wiser than you were five years ago? Healthier? Kinder? More financially secure? More peaceful?

That is a comparison worth making.

Someone else’s good life does not make yours any less good.

Don’t let comparison steal the joy that was already yours.

When Your Possessions Begin to Possess You

“The things you own end up owning you.” — Chuck Palahniuk

There is a peculiar sense of relief that comes from getting rid of things.

Clear an overcrowded table. Empty one cluttered cupboard. Give away clothes you have not worn for years. Almost immediately, the space feels different. More surprisingly, you feel different. A little lighter.

Possessions occupy more than physical space. They demand attention. They must be stored, cleaned, maintained, insured, repaired, protected and eventually disposed of. Every additional possession quietly adds another small responsibility to life.

That makes ownership worth questioning, especially for things we rarely use.

Do you need to own something you use twice a year? Could you rent it, borrow it or simply pay for the service when needed? Ownership makes sense when something provides regular value. Otherwise, we may be buying ourselves responsibility disguised as convenience.

Minimalism does not mean living without comfort or refusing things we genuinely enjoy. It means becoming deliberate about what deserves a permanent place in our lives.

There is an important psychological benefit too. Less clutter means fewer things competing for our attention. An orderly environment can feel calmer and easier to manage. Even reducing clutter slightly can create a surprising sense of control and relief.

Possess what serves you.

Enjoy what you possess.

But periodically ask whether you still own your possessions—or whether maintaining, protecting and worrying about them has made them the owners.

Simplify not merely to survive with less.

Simplify so you have more freedom to thrive. 

Schedule Your Priorities

“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” — Stephen R. Covey

Planning is useful. But a beautifully planned day can still be an unproductive day if the priorities are wrong.

Priority is not simply another word for urgency. Something can be urgent and relatively unimportant. Another task may have no deadline at all and yet be extremely important to your health, career or creative ambitions.

Real prioritization considers several things: importance, urgency, difficulty, the energy required and even how much we dislike doing something.

That last point matters.

Some important activities become progressively harder to do as the day advances. Exercise is a good example. If you repeatedly plan to exercise “sometime today,” evening may arrive with a dozen perfectly reasonable excuses. If exercise matters, give it an early and protected place in your day.

Creative work deserves similar treatment. If writing, painting, composing or thinking deeply is important to you, consider doing it before opening the gates to the outside world. Once emails, messages, news and other people’s requests start arriving, your priorities can quickly be replaced by theirs.

Do not automatically begin your day with whatever is easiest, most pleasant or making the most noise.

Ask yourself a better question:

What must I accomplish today for this to have been a worthwhile day?

Identify those few things and give them your best time and energy.

Plan your day, certainly.

But first decide what deserves the best part of it. 

Give Your Brain a Bedtime Too

We prepare our bodies for sleep. We change clothes, brush our teeth, switch off the lights and get into bed. Then we pick up the phone and wake the brain all over again.

Phones, tablets, computers and television are among the worst companions before bedtime. Their light can interfere with the body’s natural preparation for sleep. More importantly, what we consume keeps the mind stimulated. News, messages, videos, social media and endless scrolling tell the brain to remain alert when it should be slowing down.

The result is predictable. We take longer to fall asleep, sleep quality can suffer, and we may wake up less refreshed. Repeated poor sleep eventually affects concentration, mood, energy and overall health.

Try something wonderfully old-fashioned instead.

Put away electronic gadgets well before bedtime. Turn off the television. Lower the lights. Pick up a regular printed book and read slowly. Choose something pleasant, not something so exciting that you cannot put it down.

Soon you may notice the words becoming blurry. You reread the same paragraph. Your eyelids become heavy. The book starts slipping from your hands.

That is natural sleepiness arriving without a fight.

Close the book. Switch off the light. Sleep.

Technology has improved countless parts of our lives. Bedtime does not necessarily have to be one of them.